In life, have a friend that is like a mirror and a shadow. A mirror never lies and a shadow never leaves. Unknown
I haven’t been out of our RV by myself since my husband, Jonathan lost his job. When we need groceries or something else that requires a drive into town, we go together. We usually take the dogs. It’s like a family outing.
Today, I drove by myself 30 miles west to visit my friend Penny and her 12-year-old granddaughter, Brooklyn who is visiting for a month. Penny is a wonderful neighbor we had at our previous RV park. She has two beautiful chocolate labs named Dawson and McKinley. We used to walk our four dogs together every morning and sometimes in the afternoon if our schedules permitted. Penny and I have a lot in common and I always looked forward to our morning “girl time.” My lab, Keystone, taught her female lab, McKinley, to swim in the lake and all four of them used to swim and play in the river or lake every morning.
We had some great times and lots of adventures on those morning walks. We saw deer, muskrats, owls, hawks, wild turkeys, pelicans, snowy egrets and Sand hill cranes. We also came across turtles, frogs and not so exciting snakes (Penny and I feel the same way about snakes). I didn’t know how much I enjoyed those talks on our morning walks until I didn’t have them anymore. I missed that girl time that we had every day.
I think that as women, we should lift each other up. We need each other to sound off on, just to vent or as some people (mostly men) say “complain,” without having someone trying to fix our problem or tell us how easy their solution would be to solve it. Sometimes we don’t want it solved. It is what it is… just a part of life. We just need to talk it out with each other.
During the 7 months I spent with Penny in that RV park, I came out of my shell 100%, and I believe the biggest reason is because of Penny and her dogs. I have clinical depression as well as agoraphobia (extreme or irrational fear of crowded spaces or public places), and I believe that having Penny and our dogs to walk with every morning gave me a reason to get up and get outside. I think the dogs enjoyed it as much as we did because they needed to socialize as well.
Back to our girl day, I got to visit with Penny and Brooklyn. We went to Olive Garden for lunch, then to Hobby Lobby to pick up some yarn for a blanket I’m working on and finally to The Dollar Tree. That’s it. Nothing that seems so special, however my “girl time” love bucket got filled up. We didn’t talk about anything important, just about what has been going on in our separate lives. Penny listened quietly while I updated her on my Dad’s health and Jonathan’s job hunt. Brooklyn made us laugh with her innocent remarks and honest opinions.
If you are still reading this and haven’t had any “girl time” recently… well, go get some. Call your closest friend or just a friend whose company you enjoy. Go for a walk, or meet for coffee and just talk. Trust me, you will feel so much better afterwards.
“A friend can tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself.” Frances Ward Weller